Fair amount for living with us.?
My step-grandson who is now 22 yrs old has been living with us since he was 16 because he couldn’t get along with my step-daughter who is divorced. We received child support from his father until he truned 19. He was made to get an education and learn a trade. He is presently employed and working for an auto dealership making about 0.00 weekly. Now his mother has come to live with as she sold her townhouse because she will be getting transfered with her job in about 6 months. She is presently making about 0.00 a week. She only wants to pay .00 weekly as her share of the expenses for food, elec & etc. Her son is paying nothing. I told her that it was her responsibility to either pay his share or collect it from him the living expenses or they both could leave.
We have a large luxury home complete with inground pool and they occupy the entire second floor of our home. What is fair? I say they should be responsible for 50% of the daily living expenses. We are retire
not quite 50 percent, but 40 percent seems fair.
Get out your utility bills and grocery receipts. Have a family meeting and show them what it costs you to run the house. They either pay their share or move out. It’s that simple. These are your husband’s kids, where are his gonads?
tell her to move out if she doesn’t want to put in half. I would’ve been pissed off if i were you.
I would look into what a two bedroom rental in the area is and charge them close to what rent would be.
You are definitely right. Nothing in this world is free and if they lived on their own they would be paying a lot more than half of your expenses to occupy the space they do and the benefits of a pool. $50 a week is a slap in the face. I make less than both of them and I support four people, I rent a 4 bedroom house (with no pool). We have no extra money but our bills are paid and our kids have everything they need or want. It’s time they both grow up and pay bills like everyone else in this world. Stick to your guns and get rid of them. I would also serve them with an itemized bill for everything they use in the house!
If you have a spouse, then there are 4 people total living in the house, right? Then the grandson should pay 1/4, and the daughter 1/4. Fair’s fair! You don’t get to live there for free, neither should they.
They need to be responsible for their own groceries, as well. If they want to pay extra to have you take care of that, then 1/2 of the total grocery bill needs to be added on!
I booted my two eldest kids when they wouldn’t share expenses (They had decent jobs) and I live on disability.
It’s called tough love!
Good luck!
Ivy
I think you should tell them nicely to get out and find their own living arrangements. It’s not like they cant afford it…I make much less and I’ve been on my own since the age of 17, supporting a younger sibling. They need to learn responsibility. However if you do want them to live with you, then I think half is very fair.
I agree with you on the 50%. Can you check around and see what a two bedroom apartment would run them in your area and get an estimate from that to charge them.
50% sounds fair to me!
Even at 50% its probably cheaper on them than it would be to rent an apartment and pay power, water, phone, etc.
I would also like to have my own apt with pool,etc, for fifty bucks a week too, but somehow I don’t see that happening!
They will pay what you ALLOW them to pay.
Find out what’s reasonable, or TELL them ( don’t ask them) what you expect as payment, if they don’ t like it, let them pay someplace else!
I bet once they check prices elsewhere, you’ll get your $.
Don’t you hate freeloaders??
I totally agree with you. You’re good, they would be gone from my home. it’s ok to help PPL but sometimes they take us for granted. If they had their own place, it would cost them way much more to pay. I suggest you sit them both down discuss the bills, if they can’t pay you what you want, then kindly ask them to leave. You and your wife are on a set income.Sometimes you can’t be nice to PPL. It’s sad.
I’m sorry that they expect a free ride, and it truly is unfair that they don’t want to help out or feel obligated to. Things cost money and nothing is free. I would sit down and explain to them that there are new expenses with there being there ; and that your on a budget. If they can’t understand them tell them to get an apartment and see what it will cost them. I agree they should pay something, But unsure about 50 %. Make them use a third of there money from there check to help you out. (Thats each) and then tell them that they have to provide there own food. That will even out to about 50 % beleive it or not. I went through this but not with my grandparents. How ever they didn’t have to fight with me to get me to do it. Just because its family theres no excuss to freeload.I hope this helps you out. Hang in there they will either take it or leave. Good Luck I wish you the best outcome!!!
I would say you are being fair and they arent. They are earning and should be paying BOTH of them should be.
Stop feeding them till they pay up! 50% sounds fine. Or they could go rent a place together.